Sometimes I Tell My Clients Not to Buy. Here's Why That's the Best Thing I Can Do for Them.

Spring is here, inventory is starting to move, and most of my conversations right now start with some version of the same question: "Is now a good time to buy?"

For most people I sit down with, the answer is yes. The MA market is competitive but navigable, interest rates are where they are, and waiting rarely works in anyone's favor when they're genuinely ready.

But occasionally — maybe a handful of times a year — I finish a conversation and I say: "I don't think you should buy right now."

That's not something most real estate agents will tell you. And I'll be honest — it's not always easy to say, because it means walking away from a commission. But it's the right thing to do.

And in my experience, it's usually the thing that turns someone into a client for life.

So what does that actually look like?

When the job situation isn't stable enough yet

I've had conversations with people who are three months into a new job, excited, motivated, ready to plant roots. And I have to gently pump the brakes. Lenders want to see at least two years in the same field, and some loan types are strict about employment history. But beyond the financing piece, buying a home when you're still figuring out a new role — new commute, new income stability — adds stress you don't need. Waiting six months to feel solid on both fronts isn't losing time. It's protecting yourself.

When the reserves after closing are too thin

Getting into a house is one thing. Owning it is another. If buying means you'll close with very little left in savings, that worries me. Not because something will definitely go wrong — but because something always eventually goes. An HVAC system. A roof. A water heater. When those things happen and you have no cushion, the house stops feeling like an investment and starts feeling like a trap. I'd rather wait with someone for a few months while they build their reserves than put them in a situation that sets them up to struggle.

When they're buying for the wrong reasons

This one's the most delicate. Sometimes people are ready to buy because they feel pressure — from family, from a relationship, from the idea that they "should" own by now. And I can feel it in the conversation. They're not buying because they want to. They're buying because they feel like they have to.

That's not a good foundation for what is probably the biggest financial decision of their life. I'll usually ask a few questions, slow the conversation down, and give them permission to wait. Sometimes that's all they needed to hear.

When they're stretching into a price point that doesn't give them room

Getting approved for a number doesn't mean you should spend that number. I've worked with buyers who were pre-approved at the top of their range and wanted to go right to the ceiling. I try to reframe it: what does your life look like at that payment? Can you still take a vacation? Handle a car repair? Save for retirement? If the honest answer is "barely," I'm going to say that out loud, even if it's not what they want to hear.

Sometimes we find a different strategy — a lower price point with more to work with, or a different town with better value. Other times, we decide to revisit in a year. Either way, they leave the conversation knowing I'm on their side.

Why I'm telling you this

Most people who reach out to me this time of year are closer to ready than they realize. So this isn't a post meant to slow you down.

It's just that the conversations that have stuck with me most over the years weren't the ones where I helped someone buy a house. They were the ones where I helped someone make the right call — even when that meant waiting.

If you're thinking about buying this spring, let's talk. I'll give you my honest read on where you stand.

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